Right or Wrong?

The first to present his case seems right,
till another comes forward and questions him.
                              —Proverbs 18:17

Have you noticed that when things go wrong it is always someone else’s fault? It isn’t deliberate dishonesty; it’s just that we look at mess-ups defensively.

Eugene Peterson translates Prov. 18:17 this way: “The first speech in a court case is always convincing—until the cross-examination starts!”

When you’re up to your eyeballs in conflict it’s time for cross-examination—and it is best if you do it yourself. Drop the inflexible “I’m right and you’re wrong” stance and objectively examine your position side-by-side with that of the other person.

You may be right. Or … well, you know.

No three words are harder to say—and none exhibit greater character—than these: “I was wrong!”

If you are always—uncompromisingly—right
conflict is inevitable.


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