The first to present his case seems right,
till another comes forward and questions him.
Have you noticed that when things go wrong it is always someone else’s fault? It isn’t deliberate dishonesty; it’s just that we look at mess-ups defensively.
Eugene Peterson translates Prov. 18:17 this way: “The first speech in a court case is always convincing—until the cross-examination starts!”
When you’re up to your eyeballs in conflict it’s time for cross-examination—and it is best if you do it yourself. Drop the inflexible “I’m right and you’re wrong” stance and objectively examine your position side-by-side with that of the other person.
You may be right. Or … well, you know.
No three words are harder to say—and none exhibit greater character—than these: “I was wrong!”
If you are always—uncompromisingly—right
conflict is inevitable.